Author: A Little Faith Lift…Finding Joy Beyond Rejection
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A foolproof way to find out if you are a true, authentic friend is if you are thrilled when others have success. No matter what happens to you. No matter if they got the promotion you wanted, they got the book deal you prayed for, they were healed and you were not, they have perfect kids and yours spend more time in detention than in the classroom. No matter what!
This, of course, works both ways. You will know if your friends are authentic if they celebrate your accomplishments when they themselves are struggling. I have some friends who meet that description, but I wonder if I don’t have “a little” work to do in this area.
In Genesis 4, we read that Adam and Eve had two sons, Cain and Abel. Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain worked the soil. In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the Lord. And Abel also brought an offering—fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The Lord looked with favor on Abel and his offering, but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.
Many of my Christian author friends admit they struggle with envy when they cannot manage to carve out time to write their second or third book, yet their fellow authors post about their 40th book going to print or how a respected publishing company has offered them a huge endorsement. We (yes, I fall into that category) understand Cain’s frustration.
Frustrations over God’s generosity towards others aren’t a new concept. In fact, the idea that we are entitled to God’s blessings coupled with our irritation over God’s generosity to others is at the heart of the first recorded murder in Scripture. Big brother Cain is one unhappy camper when little bro Abel got the “atta boy” from God and he didn’t.
God does not comfort Cain. He lets him know that if he does what’s right, he also will experience God’s favor. Cain has a choice. He can accept God’s sovereignty—even though he might not agree with it—or he can allow his jealousy and pride to rob him of what little peace he has. We all know which he chose, ultimately ending with him murdering Abel.
Granted, no one I know—including me—has ever murdered because another author’s book received more accolades. God does not suffer from limited generosity. He blesses as He sees fit, meaning He blesses me in different ways than He does my friends. Who am I to think that I deserve a blessing He has not given me? God is limitless in His ability to love, show grace and mercy, and bless. I should do likewise.
So, if you find yourself disappointed when others are the benefactors of something that you had hoped for, maybe even prayed for, God understands your feelings. Nevertheless, like Cain, we have a choice to trust in God’s decisions to bless others (and be happy for them), or we can allow sin to take root and be consumed with a bitter heart.
I know which kind of friend I want to be.
